My Thoughts On Dating And Why I'm Happy Alone | Setting Yourself Up On A Dating Website | And Society's Ideals.

Friday, 20 July 2018

Dating, such a minefield, do they like you? Will they text you back? How long should you wait in between messages? Where should you meet? What should you wear? Not to mention the pre-date stalk on social media! Oh dear, oh wonder I haven't ventured into the world of online dating yet??? 

I've been on dates before but never set myself up on any of the available dating sites for all to see - although many friends along the way have tried! I'm not quite sure what kinds of people end up on one of the many dating sites, such as We Love Dates - with life the way it is you have to be so careful these days about what kind of information you are putting out there and definitely not handing out personal details like address or bank details. Staying safe and being wary, doing your own research and making friends/family aware if you do decide to meet someone in real life. 

I've talked before about how I don't want children and bucking the trend when it comes to society's ideas. and I don't quite understand why so many people are in such a hurry to have us all married off and having babies at the first whiff of a significant other on the scene. 

It gets even more complicated if you happen to be bi-sexual or gay even, I mean honestly you'd think that in today's day and age society would be more accepting of different relationships and families. 20 countries around the world now accept and have legalised same-sex marriage so surely this also means that they should be accepting of a child having two dads or two mums? I'd like to think so anyway! Sometimes I get so bored of people's ignorant beliefs or how much they want you to settle down and raise a family with no thoughts as to what you actually want. 

It makes me not want to find anyone, to completely buck the trend and be alone (albeit happily so) for the time being until, perhaps, I'm lucky enough to find someone again. When I look back on my dating history it's pretty slim pickings, boyfriends in high school, quick kisses with guys on the dancefloors of the clubs at university and then my first proper relationship after I'd started my own business. Some would say that perhaps I'm lonely but honestly? I'm actually not. I think because I've grown so accustomed to actually being alone that the thought of having to share my life with someone else just doesn't feel right to me. To have to think twice before accepting an invitation somewhere or having to curtail my plans for them. Whilst this is (in my opinion) what 'normal people' do, for me, I just want to be alone really. 

To keep this independence I've grown so used to, to be able to take off at a moment's notice without having to tell anyone where I'm going or when I'll be back. Freedom to just live my life the way I want to and plan again, perhaps, to go out to Australia again and pursue my dream of working with horses - a partner would just get in the way of all of this. But I can see how amazing it would be to share this with someone else, to create memories together and have them to look back on long after the tans have faded. When I see how much my grandparents loved each other and the amount of places they've been and the things they've seen it does make me feel sad that I don't have someone yet but I'm sure there's someone out there for me, I just have to find them! 

Moving to a new town doesn't help with this either! Having to find new friends is hard enough these days, especially when you add in the fact I have suffered with social anxiety since moving here! It just makes it doubly difficult to be able to go out anywhere by myself, let alone to meet someone for a date! If anyone has any tips on how I can gt past this I would really appreciate it.

At the moment though I am happy alone, happy to share in my friend's happiness and life's moments. Maybe helping another one set themselves up a dating site or two, being that annoying friend who wants all the juicy details after yet another disastrous date! 

Tell me, have you ever ventured into the world of online dating? Do you have any funny stories to share?! 

Love, Sarah

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